Month Five of Marriage: Thoughts, Joys, & Waiting

In one day, B and I will have been married for five months; a dozen times a dozen days marked by sleeping side by side, trips to the grocery store (we ran out of eggs again?), cold morning drives to work, and a string of firsts both wonderful and challenging. Turns out we spend money differently, have contrasting visions for the apartment, and, well, are true opposites in most respects. Good thing we’re crazy about each other.

Brightening these days and weeks have been frequent dinner dates with our favorite couple, Hope and Jesse; weekend mornings letting Audrey channel her inner-wolf at the dog park; the occasional night on the town; exploring new eats in the Twin cities, and precious time at home with our families. Does this all seem leisurely and simple? I would agree, and I’ve been so thankful for these laid back days of newlywed life.

More recently, our schedules have taken a chaotic turn as I’ve started serving full time in Uptown, working evenings, weekends, and frequent fourteen hour shifts. No longer living entirely off The Bank of Brady and making a first dent in my student loans is empowering, but I’m still on the heels of that infamous ‘real job.’

I think more than anything, in this life-after-college-just-married stage, we’re still sorting out where we ‘fit.’ We want to build our careers, but also sort out where God wants us to live. Sometimes it feels like Minneapolis, but lately, it’s feeling further away. After lots of prayer, Brady recently turned down a job offer in Michigan, but after deciding to stay in the Twin Cities, is now being interviewed for positions in Utah and South Carolina…I know we’re right where God wants us to be, but my impatience so often gets the best of me.

What else keeps my heart beating fast? Mainly these simple pleasures:

Banana chocolate chip cookies

Banana chocolate chip cookies

My baby Audrey

My baby Audrey

Macaroons please

Macaroons please

Brady's Valentine present

Brady’s Valentine present

Minneapolis street art

Minneapolis street art

Mr & Mrs

Mr & Mrs

My gorgeous friends

My gorgeous friends

Coop as Superman

Coop as Superman

Hanging with the boys

Hanging with the boys

Bread & cheeseBread & cheese

God is good and I am blessed, blessed, blessed.

Christmas Tree is Up!

Before: Boring

Before: Boring

Tonight, after an afternoon wandering through the beautiful Macy’s Christmas displays, Brady and I returned home to try our own hand at decorating the  tree. Our very own and very first Christmas tree together.  Brady opened a bottle of Gruet–a wedding gift we’d been saving for a special occasion–and I began unwrapping our new collection of  ornaments; silvery white reindeer, pine cones frosted in reds and greens  and petite bulbs to fill in the holes.  My favorite ornament, however, was a frosted pine cone on one side with two red cardinals on the other. I saw it on the  downtown Macy’s Christmas tree this afternoon and thought that, with this being our very first Christmas, it would be a sweet tradition to begin choosing a special ornament every year to adorn the tree.  Thus, the tree is decorated, December is here, and I’m ready for Christmas baking, shopping, and a cold glass of  eggnog.

After: Beautiful!

After: Beautiful!

It’s been the ideal end to a much needed weekend of running errands, seeing good friends, and sleeping in. And after more than a month of being married, it’s beginning to hit me how funny marriage is. That, as a ‘spouse,’ you inevitably  end up doing everything together. From brushing your teeth to cleaning the bathroom from getting dolled up for a night out. For instance, Brady took me out for a real date on Friday night, our first since the honeymoon, and of course, I tried to look  decent.  When dinner turned into drinks turned into a cab ride downtown with Brady and the boys (Joe, Derrick, Colin, Jimmy), I thought ‘why not,’ and simply enjoyed myself.  And it did turn into a sincerely fun night.  Brady introduced me to the security guards  (“What! You have a wife?!”), and we even went dancing. My favorite part of the night, however, was the cab ride home compliments of our Somalian taxi driver who declared “I love the marriage! I love the marriage!” when he learned we were, indeed, married.

I am a control freak, and stress about everything from finding the right job to  the state of Audrey’s emotional well-being to wondering whether I’m reading enough, etc! But, I want to truly savor this Christmas season with my new little family in my new little apartment, remembering that what really counts is Isaiah 9:6.  However, Audrey still wants a kitten for Christmas.

Merry Christmas to you!

-E.

A New Chapter

My new little family

My new little family

Freshly settled into a new apartment in a new city with a new husband, I’ve decided to make a point to record bits and pieces of my new life here. Life is busy for everyone, and this past year counts as the busiest for me yet. Why? Because I  a) moved to England, b) got engaged, c) completed my masters, d) moved back home,  e) got married, and, finally,  f) moved to Minneapolis. So today, a month and three days after tying the knot, life has slowed down considerably and I find myself savoring a few extra moments to read, write, and start this blog.

What will you find here? Stories about my life. Pictures (likely too many) of my baby Scottie, Audrey. My favorite recipes. My successes and failures in decorating the apartment. Travel writing of places I’ve visited and others I’m  only dreaming about. C’est tout!

-E.

Our Save the Dates

After nearly four years of long distance, when Brady popped the question we knew we wanted our Save the Dates to reflect our international  history. Our first year of dating I studied abroad in Norway and the following year Brady studied in Spain and Morocco. I graduated from college the following year and a month later flew overseas to volunteer in Africa. Seven months later I was heading over the Atlantic again–this time to study for masters in the UK…did I mention that in between every trip we lived four hours apart? Long story short:  long-distance love is hard, but, at least for us, so worth it.

The lovely Jo of Vintage Invites along with the expertise of my cousin, Leah, created our Save the Dates and I remember feeling so excited for our friends and family to receive them.

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We loved that our Save the Dates told our story and that our wedding guests would better understand just how much tying the knot meant to us.

What were your Save the Dates like? Did sending yours out make the whole engagement thing seem real as it did for us?

love, e